My cousin Beryl is going to be married next March and, of course, she's already planning the ceremony and reception. She told me that she plans on having a "Victorian wedding" modeled on what she believes her great grandmother's wedding would have been like. Great Grandmother Beryl is her namesake, so I think that's a cool idea, but I think she'll find that planning a Victorian-style wedding is going to be an exhausting enterprise. Not just financially, physically and emotionally, but because, to do it right, a young woman has to try to look at the situation through a lacy film unlike anything that's manufactured anymore. What I mean is: Victorian weddings may seem to reflect fairy tale images when captured in old photographs, but in the reality of the times, Victorian marriages were no cakewalk. Just read the following excerpt on weddings from victorian-era.org.
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Another interesting aspect regarding Victorian wedding ceremonies are the customs surrounding food, especially the wedding cake. In Victorian times, there were three wedding cakes: one each for the bride and the groom, and another, larger cake for the guests. The bride's cake was virginal white (of course), the groom's was dark, and the guests were served a rich, heavy fruitcake with decorations and lots of scrolling on top. If the ceremony took place in the afternoon, the reception usually featured a variety of finger foods (sandwiches and scones) along with plenty of champagne and tea. If the couple could afford it there was live music of some kind. Songbooks from the era include titles such as "My Wife and I Waltz" and "The Dulcinana Wedding March." A YouTube search failed to turn up either song, but that's hardly a surprise, given the tastes of most YouTube viewers.
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